tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post8187098291626276223..comments2023-12-27T13:35:09.431-07:00Comments on Exile in Portales: In Which We Edit An Old PostBuckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05319116022465066060noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-54958121671431606802013-02-20T10:49:15.378-07:002013-02-20T10:49:15.378-07:00I pretty much agree with everything you say, Lou. ...I pretty much agree with everything you say, Lou. There came a time in my second marriage where EVERY thing I did was wrong (everything SHE did was wrong in my first marriage - insert smiley-faced thingie here). Funny, things are pretty much still like that. I just haven't found another woman who makes me feel like the things you describe, nor have I met one that I want to work that hard for.Buckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319116022465066060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-57087791208521356722013-02-20T10:45:39.651-07:002013-02-20T10:45:39.651-07:00I never went through the wedding planning/prep thi...I never went through the wedding planning/prep thing. My first marriage was in a judge's chambers... in and out... for the second one TSMP did ALL the planning, seein' as how she was in Indiana/Michigan and I was in North Dakota. We did talk about the wedding on the phone every so often, though. Other than that? All I had to do was show up and get fitted for the tux.Buckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319116022465066060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-10779125002149824772013-02-20T07:50:12.890-07:002013-02-20T07:50:12.890-07:00I think lots of people mistake lust for love. Lust...I think lots of people mistake lust for love. Lust is a good start on love, but to really love someone, you have to like them a lot and want to be with them (and not just for the sex). If there are things you want to change about a person, you better think long and hard before you marry that person. Real love makes you have to want to step up and do whatever for that person - a willingness to lay your life down over and over. It is a constant work - a constant growing. Love is definitely a verb. If it is a noun, it is a decision you make every day.<br /><br />I've seen people kill their love, their marriage dead. It starts with one little feeling contrary to giving and loving - one little idea of hate, or selfishness - and it grows into something ugly. It is what us religious people call hardening of the heart. Whether it is the heart or not, that marriage is dead. Move on.<br /><br />Matt, weddings are way over-rated and way over-done. Short, simple, and sweet - that is the way to go. Well, maybe a really great party would be nice.<br /><br />Bag Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01885412195900280096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-31017192177229349842013-02-20T07:27:00.335-07:002013-02-20T07:27:00.335-07:00Love is a lot of frickin work. I've told my wi...Love is a lot of frickin work. I've told my wife (With whom I am still married) that I will never get married again. What a pain in the freakin ass that was, the whole wedding planning, and money spent for one damned day... <br /><br />Definitely the most stressful time in our relationship. A whole year of "What do you think about this color" "I don't care about the color anymore, you've changed it seventeen times" "You never care!" "That's right, I just don't bloody care!" sorts of conversations.<br /><br />I told my wife if anything were to ever happen, and she and I were for some reason no longer together, I'd keep myself together long enough for the kids to succeed, and then it's just me and my TV, and my infatuation with beer and video games. Perhaps a strip club or two each month. Matt Conlonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02616567498642991754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-11028040175741720572013-02-19T19:54:15.530-07:002013-02-19T19:54:15.530-07:00Sometimes la nostalgie is all ya got.Sometimes la nostalgie is all ya got.Buckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319116022465066060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-53907792061643377982013-02-19T19:53:38.300-07:002013-02-19T19:53:38.300-07:00@Virgil: I'm with you, especially when it com...@Virgil: I'm with you, especially when it comes to virtual pr0n. <b>;-)</b>Buckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319116022465066060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-4404092976256536222013-02-19T19:05:43.356-07:002013-02-19T19:05:43.356-07:00I consider nostalgia an evil. Like a good bottle o...I consider nostalgia an evil. Like a good bottle of booze, I sip from it, I don't chug it. I would never inject it.<br /><br />That bottle should never be emptied, and last a lifetime, as it can never be refilled.La nostalgienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-35886059626436720802013-02-19T18:26:29.909-07:002013-02-19T18:26:29.909-07:00We're on the terminal glide-slope of our lives...We're on the terminal glide-slope of our lives, Buck. If, God forbid, my wife were to be killed in a car accident tomorrow at our age it's almost too much trouble to learn new tricks. ESPN, good booze, a great sound system, hi-speed internet, good eyesight , Chinese & Tex-Mex take-out and a working barco-lounger...that's all I need, I'm a man of simple tastes...lol Now if they could only ever perfect virtual reality porn...virgil xenophonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11491836830352263438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-1524392946353957642013-02-19T13:08:22.091-07:002013-02-19T13:08:22.091-07:00There most definitely are many and varied kinds of...There most definitely are many and varied kinds of love. My love for friends and family hasn't diminished at all over the years, but we're flat-out of romantic love. There are aspects of romantic love I miss but on the whole? I can live without it.Buckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319116022465066060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18232353.post-13460806762406134692013-02-19T13:01:31.196-07:002013-02-19T13:01:31.196-07:00I understand the bearing of the torch bit...
...an...I understand the bearing of the torch bit...<br />...and boy, do I ever remember puppy love, having experienced it from both directions.<br /><br />I have become a firm believer there are more kinds of love than we can even contemplate, we can experience more than one at a time and that's a good thing.<br /><br />It lets us know we're alive.<br /><br />(not necessarily your) Uncle Skiphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02705753220273516841noreply@blogger.com